THE CIRCLE: The radical act of self-love
And yet, accepting a distorted image of self is problematic for many reasons. I’ve previously had relationships that functioned as healing vehicles when I lacked capacity to love myself. In those relationships, I kept thinking to myself, if I can learn to love the other person, I’ll be able to truly love and accept myself. While centering the narrative on others is necessary self-exploration work and therefore also a part of the bigger picture, losing your identity in the process is not. Taking a step back to view to separate self from circumstances requires the practice of kindness, for both others and yourself. The journey of extending kindness, compassion, joy, and of course love, to yourself, is often considered radical in the mainstream.
Learning requires humility, patience, and ownership of your part. I am learning that forgiveness also plays a huge role. Consistently meeting myself with compassion proves challenging, but I am learning to forgive where it’s necessary. While knowledge is infinite and learning is a lifelong process, I am reminded to be gentle with myself. The space that I willingly hold for others must be extended to all parts of me; I owe to myself the same compassion and understanding that I give to others. With all the tools and a virtual world at our collective fingertips, we can co-create a space where self-love is routinely commemorated within society. A safe space to give voice to our aspirations — and the echo that comes back to uplift and affirm, that is a radical act in itself.